Summer is officially here but this post is going to be a recap of the end of school. The last week of school was crazy busy. Coincidentally it was my last week on leave.
Early in the week, Jenna had her end of the year bowling/party.
As always, Kylie was a big hit with the students and teachers. Jenna is very proud of her little sister and of course that makes me proud of Jenna!
After they were done bowling, they went to a nearby part for playing and a pizza lunch. They had cake to celebrate the end of their elementary years. Such a super cute cake!
Kylie even had fun...
It was a long day, but it was very mild and a fun day. There's more end of school fun to come, but this is at least a start!
5.31.2012
5.29.2012
One Day Down...
First I want to thank all of you who left me well wishes, texts, emails and encouraging words today, my first day back to work.
Steve had scheduled a doctor's appointment in Nashville at 9:45, so he, Jenna, Kylie and Katie all loaded up and made the trip. As it notoriously is with doctor offices, the wait was a little long and Kylie got a bit cranky but overall the trip wasn't too bad.
After lunch and an unsuccessful attempt at an afternoon nap, this is what they ended up doing...
They joined several of our good friends (Yanceys and Pulfreys) for some pool fun with the kiddos. Kylie much prefers big pool fun (more to come on that in a future post) but it was a nice change of pace and got Steve and them out of the house for a little while.
Meanwhile, I woke up this morning with a raging headache. I spent some time last night moving and backing up lots of photos (very behind on this) and actually had the headache when I went to bed. It just never went away. I took Advil before I left the house, but I still didn't have much of an appetite for breakfast.
Work was pretty good considering it is work. :) I spent some of the morning unpacking my office (I had packed prior to leaving because we thought our office would be moving while I was out on leave) and then most of the day I sifted through the more than 600 emails. I had several visitors to welcome me back but mostly nobody tried to give me any work to do. :) But the best thing of all was when this little surprise arrived.
These are from my sweet friend Lucinda! She knew they would brighten my day and she was right! They really lighten the office and made being at work a little easier.
My sweet friend, Elizabeth S. brought us dinner tonight, so I walked in, put my stuff down and went to grab my girls for a squeeze and dinner showed up! It was perfect timing. And it was yum! It was such a relief for Steve not to have to worry about dinner on top of everything else.
Kylie was happy as could be to see me and she actually seemed quite a bit more bonded to Jenna. So I think things are going as well as could be expected.
So for those of you who thought of me today, whether you emailed or texted or messaged me or not, THANK YOU. I couldn't have made it without you!
PS. Jenna blogged today so be sure and check it out here.
Steve had scheduled a doctor's appointment in Nashville at 9:45, so he, Jenna, Kylie and Katie all loaded up and made the trip. As it notoriously is with doctor offices, the wait was a little long and Kylie got a bit cranky but overall the trip wasn't too bad.
After lunch and an unsuccessful attempt at an afternoon nap, this is what they ended up doing...
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Meanwhile, I woke up this morning with a raging headache. I spent some time last night moving and backing up lots of photos (very behind on this) and actually had the headache when I went to bed. It just never went away. I took Advil before I left the house, but I still didn't have much of an appetite for breakfast.
Work was pretty good considering it is work. :) I spent some of the morning unpacking my office (I had packed prior to leaving because we thought our office would be moving while I was out on leave) and then most of the day I sifted through the more than 600 emails. I had several visitors to welcome me back but mostly nobody tried to give me any work to do. :) But the best thing of all was when this little surprise arrived.
These are from my sweet friend Lucinda! She knew they would brighten my day and she was right! They really lighten the office and made being at work a little easier.
My sweet friend, Elizabeth S. brought us dinner tonight, so I walked in, put my stuff down and went to grab my girls for a squeeze and dinner showed up! It was perfect timing. And it was yum! It was such a relief for Steve not to have to worry about dinner on top of everything else.
Kylie was happy as could be to see me and she actually seemed quite a bit more bonded to Jenna. So I think things are going as well as could be expected.
So for those of you who thought of me today, whether you emailed or texted or messaged me or not, THANK YOU. I couldn't have made it without you!
PS. Jenna blogged today so be sure and check it out here.
5.28.2012
Tomorrow
Tomorrow is my first day back to work after nearly 11 weeks of being off. Jenna is out of school and Steve is staying home with the girls for the summer. Pray for all of us. This is another adjustment for me although I've been through it once before, it was quite different 11 years ago. Steve is now a stay at home daddy to TWO girls one of who is FAR from self sufficient. This is very different from his summers at home with Jenna. And then there is Jenna. Summers were pretty laid back and she and Steve went and did whenever they wanted. This is different and her desires are going to be tempered with naptime and Kylie's overall mood. It'll be different for her too.
And lastly, don't forget about Kylie. She has bonded very well with me the last few weeks and so now I'm sure she's going to be wondering where this woman is all day. Being that she has a history of being abandoned, we are expecting some level of regression, but praying it doesn't happen.
So anyway, think of me tomorrow...
And lastly, don't forget about Kylie. She has bonded very well with me the last few weeks and so now I'm sure she's going to be wondering where this woman is all day. Being that she has a history of being abandoned, we are expecting some level of regression, but praying it doesn't happen.
So anyway, think of me tomorrow...
5.26.2012
Progress Update
I thought I'd take a minute to update everyone on what Kylie has been up to. She's made so much progress in a few weeks that I am afraid I'll forget if I don't document it.
Kylie is crawling like a champ. She is still taking a few steps, but not toddling yet. I have taken her to the church nursery and stayed with her. This is easy since I usually work in there. She likes all the new toys and things in there. She's very comfortable especially with me being in there.
She is still eating quite well. She eats an entire packet of oatmeal and 1/2 a banana at breakfast. We were feeding her snacks twice a day between breakfast and lunch and lunch and dinner, but she's like her mama in that snacks ruin her meal time. Lunch is not her favorite meal and she usually doesn't eat until late (like 1pm) and even then she doesn't eat much. But that means, dinnertime is usually a hit. We have transitioned her to whole milk from 2% (since she wouldn't drink whole when we first came home). She likes milk, chocolate milk, water, Gerber juice etc. As far as WHAT she eats, she eats just about everything we do. Some meals aren't easily adaptable to her so we feed her some lunch meat or ravioli instead. We haven't found much the child doesn't like. She has begun feeding herself. We try to just allow her to do that when it's not a super messy meal, but once she decides she wants to do it, it is hard to dissuade her. If it's something that will stick to her spoon (oatmeal, mashed potatoes etc.), she can get it in...most everything else falls off. She will pick up finger foods and feed herself. She will hold her sippy cup but she prefers if we do it. We continue to do it because we feel that's part of the attachment process.
She says mamamamama and will repeat it if we say it to her, but not much else (that we can understand at least). She shouts at Katie and Jenna if they are doing something. It sounds something like "MA!" She understands quite a bit of what we say and will obey commands. For example, she knows, "Sit on your bottom" and "Wanna go?" and "Want another cookie?" She signs more, milk, and we are working on cookie, drink, and hot. She can blow kisses and "give sugar" and it is quite sweet.
Her sleeping is usually pretty good. She goes down at 8pm on the dot and I or Steve rock her until she's good and asleep, typically about 20 minutes. Then we put her in the crib. She sometimes wakes up if she gets crooked in the bed, turned over and can't get back or uncovered. Some nights she'll whine in the night and we'll go in and fix whatever is wrong. Some nights, we don't hear a peep. Some mornings she wakes up at 6:00am and we try to make her stay in bed until at least 7pm because she needs the rest. Most days she will do that and now even if she's awake at 6, she'll lay quietly until 7 or 7:30. A few mornings she'll sleep soundly all the way up until 7:30. Even at 16 months, those mornings we wake up and wonder if she's still breathing. :)
She was napping about 10:30 and then again at 2:30 each for an hour and 15 or so. However, after a bout with what we think was roseola (super whiny with fever then random rash on trunk and face), she has dropped a nap. Now, given, this week has been crazy so it might be that if we were at home, she'd take both naps, but right now it's just one for an hour or hour and half.
She has really started to show her personality and she truly is generally happy. She has gotten to where she'll just giggle and laugh when she thinks something is funny. And boy when we are out in public, she knows how to turn on the charm. Everyone that has met her just goes on and on about her. She's a charmer for sure. Her hair is getting long in random places, so we put tiny barrettes in it and that just adds to the cuteness. She is a mess and after many weeks of struggling to feel attached to her, it's coming way easier now.
So that's where we are...more to come!
Kylie is crawling like a champ. She is still taking a few steps, but not toddling yet. I have taken her to the church nursery and stayed with her. This is easy since I usually work in there. She likes all the new toys and things in there. She's very comfortable especially with me being in there.
She is still eating quite well. She eats an entire packet of oatmeal and 1/2 a banana at breakfast. We were feeding her snacks twice a day between breakfast and lunch and lunch and dinner, but she's like her mama in that snacks ruin her meal time. Lunch is not her favorite meal and she usually doesn't eat until late (like 1pm) and even then she doesn't eat much. But that means, dinnertime is usually a hit. We have transitioned her to whole milk from 2% (since she wouldn't drink whole when we first came home). She likes milk, chocolate milk, water, Gerber juice etc. As far as WHAT she eats, she eats just about everything we do. Some meals aren't easily adaptable to her so we feed her some lunch meat or ravioli instead. We haven't found much the child doesn't like. She has begun feeding herself. We try to just allow her to do that when it's not a super messy meal, but once she decides she wants to do it, it is hard to dissuade her. If it's something that will stick to her spoon (oatmeal, mashed potatoes etc.), she can get it in...most everything else falls off. She will pick up finger foods and feed herself. She will hold her sippy cup but she prefers if we do it. We continue to do it because we feel that's part of the attachment process.
She says mamamamama and will repeat it if we say it to her, but not much else (that we can understand at least). She shouts at Katie and Jenna if they are doing something. It sounds something like "MA!" She understands quite a bit of what we say and will obey commands. For example, she knows, "Sit on your bottom" and "Wanna go?" and "Want another cookie?" She signs more, milk, and we are working on cookie, drink, and hot. She can blow kisses and "give sugar" and it is quite sweet.
Her sleeping is usually pretty good. She goes down at 8pm on the dot and I or Steve rock her until she's good and asleep, typically about 20 minutes. Then we put her in the crib. She sometimes wakes up if she gets crooked in the bed, turned over and can't get back or uncovered. Some nights she'll whine in the night and we'll go in and fix whatever is wrong. Some nights, we don't hear a peep. Some mornings she wakes up at 6:00am and we try to make her stay in bed until at least 7pm because she needs the rest. Most days she will do that and now even if she's awake at 6, she'll lay quietly until 7 or 7:30. A few mornings she'll sleep soundly all the way up until 7:30. Even at 16 months, those mornings we wake up and wonder if she's still breathing. :)
She was napping about 10:30 and then again at 2:30 each for an hour and 15 or so. However, after a bout with what we think was roseola (super whiny with fever then random rash on trunk and face), she has dropped a nap. Now, given, this week has been crazy so it might be that if we were at home, she'd take both naps, but right now it's just one for an hour or hour and half.
She has really started to show her personality and she truly is generally happy. She has gotten to where she'll just giggle and laugh when she thinks something is funny. And boy when we are out in public, she knows how to turn on the charm. Everyone that has met her just goes on and on about her. She's a charmer for sure. Her hair is getting long in random places, so we put tiny barrettes in it and that just adds to the cuteness. She is a mess and after many weeks of struggling to feel attached to her, it's coming way easier now.
So that's where we are...more to come!
5.25.2012
Worship Leader
This past weekend, our church had a family worship service where the kids are on risers on stage leading in worship music.
Occasionally, two lucky kids get to actually lead with the worship team. And this was Jenna's chance!!
She was SO excited and the worship music was some of our favorite and most familiar! Mr. Jeremy (our wonderful worship leader pictured here to Jenna's right) did a fabulous job choosing just the right music!
I was SO proud of my girl! She just keeps giving me things to be proud of! And Kylie is still going with me to service each week (although we did hang out with our friends in the nursery during the first hour this week and she did great!). She just watches and listens to the music so intently. She always has her hand raised and I can't help but thing these worship services (we've been going every week since Easter) are the first times she's heard the wonderful music I love. And being there every week fills me up the way I need too.
Occasionally, two lucky kids get to actually lead with the worship team. And this was Jenna's chance!!
She was SO excited and the worship music was some of our favorite and most familiar! Mr. Jeremy (our wonderful worship leader pictured here to Jenna's right) did a fabulous job choosing just the right music!
I was SO proud of my girl! She just keeps giving me things to be proud of! And Kylie is still going with me to service each week (although we did hang out with our friends in the nursery during the first hour this week and she did great!). She just watches and listens to the music so intently. She always has her hand raised and I can't help but thing these worship services (we've been going every week since Easter) are the first times she's heard the wonderful music I love. And being there every week fills me up the way I need too.
5.24.2012
More progress!
Another good sign of progress in Kylie...
She is starting to want to take control of all her eating and drinking and it can be kinda messy...but fun. :) Our girl is making GREAT strides!
5.23.2012
Look what she can do!
Check out what we caught on video this weekend...
She's making more progress every day!!
5.22.2012
4th Grade Breakfast
Last Tuesday, the 4th graders had their farewell breakfast. At Jenna's school, 4th grade marks the end of elementary school and 5th grade begins middle school (stop. breathe. I have a middle schooler.) It was a very delicious breakfast.
Jenna was especially thrilled. :) Actually, she really was excited.
After everyone had eaten the kids went up and showed off a little of the memorization they had done all year in Bible class. I was pretty impressed...
But then let me just tell you how those kids blew me out of the water...for each letter of the alphabet, they have memorized a verse in the Bible starting with the letter. That means Jenna has in her head, and heart, more verses than I do. The video is about 6 minutes long and I'm sure no one else cares to listen to the whole thing, but listen to a bit...it's not all the verses, but hearing these kids will really impress and bless you!
And so this is why we choose Christian education for our children. While we fully believe it is the responsibility of the family to teach Christian values to their kids, it is wonderful to have school come alongside us in that.
Even more, I'm so proud of my girl. It's been a crazy year for her and she has practically SHINED. I can't wait to see the young woman God is molding her into.
Jenna was especially thrilled. :) Actually, she really was excited.
After everyone had eaten the kids went up and showed off a little of the memorization they had done all year in Bible class. I was pretty impressed...
And so this is why we choose Christian education for our children. While we fully believe it is the responsibility of the family to teach Christian values to their kids, it is wonderful to have school come alongside us in that.
Even more, I'm so proud of my girl. It's been a crazy year for her and she has practically SHINED. I can't wait to see the young woman God is molding her into.
5.21.2012
May Photo Shoot
I had a quick chance to get a few new photos of Kylie a week or so ago. She was in a particularly good mood and cooperated and I tried a few different settings on my camera.
Kylie has been running a fever for the past several afternoons and it's made her REALLY cranky and whiny. So whiny that I wasn't sure Steve or I could take much more.
Luckily, yesterday she didn't run a fever and was in a spectacular mood. And of course, these pictures were taken before it all started.
We are really starting to see her personality come out when she's not cranky. It's hard knowing the reasons for the crankiness when your child gets dropped in your life at a year old. We have tried to think about what we do differently each day but ultimately, it is just about her getting more and more comfortable with us.
She is crawling very well now and starting to explore on her own. Both of which show her comfort level is improving.
She especially likes looking out the door to the deck and playing on the air vent. She likes when the air (or wind) blows in her face.
And yes, I notice that I have a penchant for black and white. I don't know why but I'm trying to get more into color. But for May...you get mostly black and white!
Kylie has been running a fever for the past several afternoons and it's made her REALLY cranky and whiny. So whiny that I wasn't sure Steve or I could take much more.
Luckily, yesterday she didn't run a fever and was in a spectacular mood. And of course, these pictures were taken before it all started.
We are really starting to see her personality come out when she's not cranky. It's hard knowing the reasons for the crankiness when your child gets dropped in your life at a year old. We have tried to think about what we do differently each day but ultimately, it is just about her getting more and more comfortable with us.
She is crawling very well now and starting to explore on her own. Both of which show her comfort level is improving.
She especially likes looking out the door to the deck and playing on the air vent. She likes when the air (or wind) blows in her face.
And yes, I notice that I have a penchant for black and white. I don't know why but I'm trying to get more into color. But for May...you get mostly black and white!
5.20.2012
Things I Wish I'd Known...part 2
I was thinking the other day about things I wish I'd known in regards to the adoption process. Things that I ended up learning online through friends I met or posts I'd read. I thought I'd do a brain dump here. Maybe it will help someone as they embark on this journey...
1. Make a notary your dear friend. Luckily, I have multiple friends who are notaries. It's one of the pluses of working outside the home in a business. I did have to impose on one friend to go with me to the doctor's office to notarize something. Also, try to ensure your notaries are all in the same county. This is pretty important especially if you are adopting from China because you have to have the notary certified and if you have notaries from 3 different counties (ahem, yes, that was me) then you have to go to each county to have it certified.
2. For special needs, speak to a doctor specializing in international adoption or a very trusted pediatrician when deciding what special needs you can handle. Our pediatrician was unavailable when we were filling out this form. We chose instead, to meet with a retired, well respected pediatrician acquaintance from church. Unfortunately, while he was well respected, we did not have a relationship with him. I think it would have been to our benefit had we actually waited and spoken with our pediatrician or the international adoption clinic. In the end, we ended up modifying our list of needs because of information we learned later.
3. In reference to #2, do research on each need regardless of whether you are open to it or not. We originally put we would be open to a repaired cleft palate and unrepaired cleft lip baby. We did that because we felt like the lip repair would be easier and less trouble. As we would find out later (through our own research), in most cases (at least in China), they repair the lip there and not the palate. Had we not modified our special needs list, we might STILL be waiting. No one mentioned this to us so research! Also, there were a few minor heart issues we did NOT say we were open to because the pediatrician we met with scared us slightly saying so many times there are other more severe heart issues that aren't detected. This is likely true. That CAN happen. But I think we would have been more open to a few of those needs had we had a pediatrician who was more in tune with the adoption world.
4. Ignore any timelines you might get from your agency or any other well-meaning adoptive family. I saw another blogger mention something along these lines and thought it was well worth repeating. No matter what others say, your situation will likely be different. Sometimes it is faster, but more times than not, it is slower. That's the name of the game with adoption. Whenever you hear a family say it took them XX to get through the process, file that away with information that is good to know but that doesn't apply. In other words, get rid of any expectations you have. You'll save your sanity that way
5. Have at least ONE very close adoptive friend you can confide in, preferably also adopting from or having adopted from the same country. I was fortunate to have multiple adoptive families a phone call or mouse click away as well as a best friend going through the process at the same time (different country). I also was beyond blessed to have a work friend who knew nothing about the process until I started. She was right there with me every step of the way and by the end, knew was LOA, PA and TA was. And speaking of abbreviations...
6. Get online (two great websites here and here for China adoptions) and learn the abbreviations and steps of the process. The more you know, the better you will feel. Now, some will disagree and say ignorance is bliss and sometimes that is true, but one of the couple will need to know this information. Another great resource are Yahoo groups, Facebook groups and blogs.
7. Prepare yourself for questions. You'll get some genuinely curious questions and some downright nosey and rude ones, so be prepared with your answers. You will educate yourself and the person asking if you are prepared for questions like, "How much is this costing?", "Why are you adopting from XXXX (insert your country of choice)?", "Why AREN'T you adopting from here when there so many children who need homes?"
Those are just a few right off the top of my head. I'm sure there are others...but the more you know, the better. Ask questions. No question is stupid. Veterans of this adoption world are happy to help answer questions for newbies. Just remember, the answer may or may not apply to you (because sometimes you'll get everything from best to worst case scenario) but never, NEVER think "Oh, that won't be the way with us," because as sure as you think that...it WILL be you. :)
1. Make a notary your dear friend. Luckily, I have multiple friends who are notaries. It's one of the pluses of working outside the home in a business. I did have to impose on one friend to go with me to the doctor's office to notarize something. Also, try to ensure your notaries are all in the same county. This is pretty important especially if you are adopting from China because you have to have the notary certified and if you have notaries from 3 different counties (ahem, yes, that was me) then you have to go to each county to have it certified.
2. For special needs, speak to a doctor specializing in international adoption or a very trusted pediatrician when deciding what special needs you can handle. Our pediatrician was unavailable when we were filling out this form. We chose instead, to meet with a retired, well respected pediatrician acquaintance from church. Unfortunately, while he was well respected, we did not have a relationship with him. I think it would have been to our benefit had we actually waited and spoken with our pediatrician or the international adoption clinic. In the end, we ended up modifying our list of needs because of information we learned later.
3. In reference to #2, do research on each need regardless of whether you are open to it or not. We originally put we would be open to a repaired cleft palate and unrepaired cleft lip baby. We did that because we felt like the lip repair would be easier and less trouble. As we would find out later (through our own research), in most cases (at least in China), they repair the lip there and not the palate. Had we not modified our special needs list, we might STILL be waiting. No one mentioned this to us so research! Also, there were a few minor heart issues we did NOT say we were open to because the pediatrician we met with scared us slightly saying so many times there are other more severe heart issues that aren't detected. This is likely true. That CAN happen. But I think we would have been more open to a few of those needs had we had a pediatrician who was more in tune with the adoption world.
4. Ignore any timelines you might get from your agency or any other well-meaning adoptive family. I saw another blogger mention something along these lines and thought it was well worth repeating. No matter what others say, your situation will likely be different. Sometimes it is faster, but more times than not, it is slower. That's the name of the game with adoption. Whenever you hear a family say it took them XX to get through the process, file that away with information that is good to know but that doesn't apply. In other words, get rid of any expectations you have. You'll save your sanity that way
5. Have at least ONE very close adoptive friend you can confide in, preferably also adopting from or having adopted from the same country. I was fortunate to have multiple adoptive families a phone call or mouse click away as well as a best friend going through the process at the same time (different country). I also was beyond blessed to have a work friend who knew nothing about the process until I started. She was right there with me every step of the way and by the end, knew was LOA, PA and TA was. And speaking of abbreviations...
6. Get online (two great websites here and here for China adoptions) and learn the abbreviations and steps of the process. The more you know, the better you will feel. Now, some will disagree and say ignorance is bliss and sometimes that is true, but one of the couple will need to know this information. Another great resource are Yahoo groups, Facebook groups and blogs.
7. Prepare yourself for questions. You'll get some genuinely curious questions and some downright nosey and rude ones, so be prepared with your answers. You will educate yourself and the person asking if you are prepared for questions like, "How much is this costing?", "Why are you adopting from XXXX (insert your country of choice)?", "Why AREN'T you adopting from here when there so many children who need homes?"
Those are just a few right off the top of my head. I'm sure there are others...but the more you know, the better. Ask questions. No question is stupid. Veterans of this adoption world are happy to help answer questions for newbies. Just remember, the answer may or may not apply to you (because sometimes you'll get everything from best to worst case scenario) but never, NEVER think "Oh, that won't be the way with us," because as sure as you think that...it WILL be you. :)
5.19.2012
Books!
I can't believe I haven't gotten to post this until now, but I blame "baby brain". A few weeks ago, my sweet work team threw me a shower for Kylie. Work has been crazy busy so it's no small feat that my team managed to pull it off.
Instead of the traditional shower, they did a book shower! I honestly wasn't sure what to expect but it ended up being SO cute! Dr. Seuss themed...
The cake was delicious and yes, Kylie enjoyed a bite or two as well! That could have been why she didn't sleep that night... (just kidding!)
So many of my team members were there and it was really nice to see them again after being gone for more than a month.
We got SO many books and out of ALL of them, none were duplicates...either of what we already have or what someone else gave. How unbelievable is that!?
I have started reading to Kylie almost every day. She could care less and is not going to sit still long enough to listen to a book but I read while she play in her room. We do a Bible story, then a Dr. Seuss book (my favorite is Fox in Socks) and then another Bible book.
I've been at my company for 14 years in June and these folks have become like family to me. Many of them are friends as well as co-workers. I'm so thankful for a team like this.
Instead of the traditional shower, they did a book shower! I honestly wasn't sure what to expect but it ended up being SO cute! Dr. Seuss themed...
The cake was delicious and yes, Kylie enjoyed a bite or two as well! That could have been why she didn't sleep that night... (just kidding!)
So many of my team members were there and it was really nice to see them again after being gone for more than a month.
We got SO many books and out of ALL of them, none were duplicates...either of what we already have or what someone else gave. How unbelievable is that!?
I have started reading to Kylie almost every day. She could care less and is not going to sit still long enough to listen to a book but I read while she play in her room. We do a Bible story, then a Dr. Seuss book (my favorite is Fox in Socks) and then another Bible book.
I've been at my company for 14 years in June and these folks have become like family to me. Many of them are friends as well as co-workers. I'm so thankful for a team like this.
5.18.2012
Happy Birthday...
Today is my brother, David's, birthday. David unexpectedly left us a couple of years ago on September 11. I used to sit and wonder how my life would go on without him in it. Now I know.
He was about 15 when I was born, so watching Jenna and Kylie with Chase, I can see exactly how much I loved and looked up to him.
Last Christmas, my sister in law went through some old photos and brought me this one. I love it and I loved him. I sure do miss him.
He was about 15 when I was born, so watching Jenna and Kylie with Chase, I can see exactly how much I loved and looked up to him.
Last Christmas, my sister in law went through some old photos and brought me this one. I love it and I loved him. I sure do miss him.
5.17.2012
Kylie's Early Days
I thought I posted these before, but I can't find them. So if I did, just pretend I didn't. And if I didn't...well here you go!
When we picked Kylie up, we received a memory book that Half the Sky had done as part of their program. Unfortunately, it's in Mandarin and we are still trying to find someone to translate it that won't charge us $400! But the pictures are priceless to us and so I thought I'd share..
When we picked Kylie up, we received a memory book that Half the Sky had done as part of their program. Unfortunately, it's in Mandarin and we are still trying to find someone to translate it that won't charge us $400! But the pictures are priceless to us and so I thought I'd share..
These are the first photos of her after coming to the orphanage (gee, writing this I sure do feel like I posted this before!!!) |
Look at her little hand and foot prints! So sweet!!! |
More of her as a little baby. Priceless. |
5.16.2012
What Kylie is up to...
She's certainly a mess, but an enjoyable one!
She's cruising quite well and she loves to stand on the air vent (when it's not blowing) and look out onto the back deck. |
I told you, the child LOVES her bath. This is one of 1,000 pictures of her having fun in the tub. |
Now that she's crawling, she has taken to crawling under the kitchen table and chairs. She has experienced more than one bumped noggin doing this! |
5.15.2012
Kylie's Sees Us!
When we first met our Kylie back in August 2011, we sent a care package which had a disposable camera in it. We also sent a photo album of us and asked her caregivers to talk to her about us. When we arrived at the orphanage, we received the disposable camera back and once home, I had the photos developed.
Here are two I thought I'd share...
Do you see? She has our photo album! And she's looking at Jenna! I love love love this picture!!!
This one is a picture of us. For some reason, we didn't get this photo album back and I forgot to ask about it until we had left the orphanage. I am so sad we weren't able to get it. So if you are out there and traveling to Liangyungang anytime soon, let me know! LOL!
At least we know she saw it once. I'm not sure when this photo was taken but it was before December since that's when her cleft was fixed. I'm so glad to have these..
Here are two I thought I'd share...
Do you see? She has our photo album! And she's looking at Jenna! I love love love this picture!!!
This one is a picture of us. For some reason, we didn't get this photo album back and I forgot to ask about it until we had left the orphanage. I am so sad we weren't able to get it. So if you are out there and traveling to Liangyungang anytime soon, let me know! LOL!
At least we know she saw it once. I'm not sure when this photo was taken but it was before December since that's when her cleft was fixed. I'm so glad to have these..
5.14.2012
A Belated Mother's Day
I sure did mean to post yesterday but the day didn't go exactly as planned. Kylie has been getting up earlier than she needs to which makes her super cranky. Steve meant to take care of her all day to give me a little time to do what I wanted to do but neither of us do whiny, so I spent some part of the day giving Steve a break.
It was an awful rainy day, so I didn't get a single picture of me and my kids. That's disappointing now that I realize it but I do have this one from our photo shoot a few weeks ago.
I did end up getting time to clean off my scrap booking table which was covered with China trip stuff. I also got Jenna's straight and we scrapbooked for like 10 minutes. Which is the equivalent to half a page for me but hey, it's progress! I had a quick errand to run and I got to do that while Kylie and Steve napped.
I also got several very nice Mother's Day gifts which I love. Kylie is too little to know much yet, but I absolutely adore Jenna's home made gifts...
Mother's day is typically a bit bittersweet for me since I lost my mother and mother in law. I thought I might post a few pics of my mom since we got a new scanner...
So to all of you out there...mothers, stepmoms, grandmoms, surrogate moms, adoptive moms, belly moms, single moms and those who are moms in waiting...my hat is off to you. The job is hard and so many times thankless...but OH SO WORTH IT.
It was an awful rainy day, so I didn't get a single picture of me and my kids. That's disappointing now that I realize it but I do have this one from our photo shoot a few weeks ago.
I did end up getting time to clean off my scrap booking table which was covered with China trip stuff. I also got Jenna's straight and we scrapbooked for like 10 minutes. Which is the equivalent to half a page for me but hey, it's progress! I had a quick errand to run and I got to do that while Kylie and Steve napped.
I also got several very nice Mother's Day gifts which I love. Kylie is too little to know much yet, but I absolutely adore Jenna's home made gifts...
This is me. Jenna drew it in art and they made it into a pin. The 3 hearts represent her, Kylie and Steve. I love the detail. |
Speaking of detail....look at the bricks in the turret. Something else she made. Jenna really is pretty artistic... |
And then this is the gift from Steve. When I got pregnant with Jenna, I got a diamond necklace with two hearts. Now my heart has expanded to three! |
Mother's day is typically a bit bittersweet for me since I lost my mother and mother in law. I thought I might post a few pics of my mom since we got a new scanner...
This was right before they went to some type of Christmas program. I think around 1986 or so? One of the best pictures of my mom. They rarely went out, so this was a treat. |
So to all of you out there...mothers, stepmoms, grandmoms, surrogate moms, adoptive moms, belly moms, single moms and those who are moms in waiting...my hat is off to you. The job is hard and so many times thankless...but OH SO WORTH IT.
5.11.2012
Busy Thursday
Yesterday, since Kylie woke up early, Steve and I packed up and trekked down to the social security office to try and get Kylie a card. I wasn't sure what exactly we needed or what to expect in terms of timing, so I basically took every piece of paper from the adoption that I had.
Kylie fell asleep on the way so Steve parked and let me go in. I only had to wait about 15 minutes and they called me up. I had everything they needed and in 10 more minutes they said the card would arrive next week and I was on my way! Super easy! Shout of to the SSA office! (I know, weird right?)
Then, it was off for an early lunch. I joke that Steve and I have turned into senior citizens because we eat lunch at 10:30 and dinner at 3:30! But we had Kylie's first visit with our pediatrician at 11:30 so we had no choice.
We made it to the pediatrician's office at 11:30 on the dot and they took us right back. We have the most marvelous doctor and nurse IN. THE. WORLD. Kylie has only gained 1 pound since we returned from China which bothered me since she eats like there's no tomorrow. However, the doctor isn't concerned because her palate makes it tough and she thinks she'll catch up. She was pleased with how she looked, acted and the sounds she was making.
She is going to get the early intervention paperwork going for her speech and development and also a referral for her eyesight since as far as we know, it was not tested. Based on what she saw of her palate (though she is not a plastic surgeon), she thinks we'll end up with three surgeries...one for the palate, one for the nose/lip revision and some oral surgery and orthodontia. Fun times. But overall, given the situation, she thinks she looks great. We are blessed that her palate is really her only challenge.
Unfortunately, Kylie was up for 5 vaccinations. They took her and held her so I didn't have to be the "bad guy". She didn't even whimper when the first shot went in but started crying when they pushed the medicine in. Then she cried through the other 4 (which went super fast because, again, we have the BEST nurse and doctor in the world). The minute they let her up, she was fine and was smiling.
We go back in 3 months for her 18 month visit. Until then, we are focused on the palate surgery.
After the doctor visit, we did some errands and then headed to my office to visit for a bit. Several folks who had not seen Kylie before got to see her and I got a minute to talk to my boss and co-worker. It was so nice to have some adult conversation that didn't have to do with baby stuff. I miss it and my team. I sometimes feel guilty because I'm not the best stay at home mom, but our life is what it is.
We headed over to get Jenna and then home. Luckily, Kylie slept on the way home but between that and the earlier nap in the car, it only amounted to about 1 1/2 hours and she'd gotten up nearly 2 hours earlier than normal. By the time we got home, she was pretty cranky. I don't know if it's because of the shots or the lack of sleep. But I ended up holding her out until almost 7:30 (normal bedtime is 8pm) and then she was down for the count. We gave her another dose of Tylenol since it was very clear her little legs were sore.
Now, here's looking forward to another quiet weekend. This coming week is the 2 week mark of when I go back to work. I can't believe the time is almost here. This 11 weeks seems so much longer than the 11 weeks I took with Jenna. Although I bet time has a way of making that look differently.
Kylie fell asleep on the way so Steve parked and let me go in. I only had to wait about 15 minutes and they called me up. I had everything they needed and in 10 more minutes they said the card would arrive next week and I was on my way! Super easy! Shout of to the SSA office! (I know, weird right?)
Then, it was off for an early lunch. I joke that Steve and I have turned into senior citizens because we eat lunch at 10:30 and dinner at 3:30! But we had Kylie's first visit with our pediatrician at 11:30 so we had no choice.
We made it to the pediatrician's office at 11:30 on the dot and they took us right back. We have the most marvelous doctor and nurse IN. THE. WORLD. Kylie has only gained 1 pound since we returned from China which bothered me since she eats like there's no tomorrow. However, the doctor isn't concerned because her palate makes it tough and she thinks she'll catch up. She was pleased with how she looked, acted and the sounds she was making.
She is going to get the early intervention paperwork going for her speech and development and also a referral for her eyesight since as far as we know, it was not tested. Based on what she saw of her palate (though she is not a plastic surgeon), she thinks we'll end up with three surgeries...one for the palate, one for the nose/lip revision and some oral surgery and orthodontia. Fun times. But overall, given the situation, she thinks she looks great. We are blessed that her palate is really her only challenge.
Unfortunately, Kylie was up for 5 vaccinations. They took her and held her so I didn't have to be the "bad guy". She didn't even whimper when the first shot went in but started crying when they pushed the medicine in. Then she cried through the other 4 (which went super fast because, again, we have the BEST nurse and doctor in the world). The minute they let her up, she was fine and was smiling.
We go back in 3 months for her 18 month visit. Until then, we are focused on the palate surgery.
After the doctor visit, we did some errands and then headed to my office to visit for a bit. Several folks who had not seen Kylie before got to see her and I got a minute to talk to my boss and co-worker. It was so nice to have some adult conversation that didn't have to do with baby stuff. I miss it and my team. I sometimes feel guilty because I'm not the best stay at home mom, but our life is what it is.
We headed over to get Jenna and then home. Luckily, Kylie slept on the way home but between that and the earlier nap in the car, it only amounted to about 1 1/2 hours and she'd gotten up nearly 2 hours earlier than normal. By the time we got home, she was pretty cranky. I don't know if it's because of the shots or the lack of sleep. But I ended up holding her out until almost 7:30 (normal bedtime is 8pm) and then she was down for the count. We gave her another dose of Tylenol since it was very clear her little legs were sore.
Now, here's looking forward to another quiet weekend. This coming week is the 2 week mark of when I go back to work. I can't believe the time is almost here. This 11 weeks seems so much longer than the 11 weeks I took with Jenna. Although I bet time has a way of making that look differently.
5.10.2012
Say What??
Sorry I didn't update sooner, but the ear tube surgery went well. We had to get up super early (like 4:30am!) to be at the surgery center at 6:00. We weren't sure how Kylie would feel to be woken up so early but she was actually in a pretty good mood. She wasn't allowed to have breakfast (or anything after midnight) but since she doesn't eat that early anyway, so it didn't bother her in the least.
We arrived at the surgery center right at 6:00 and they took us back before I finished the paperwork. They took her vitals and we put her little gown on. Since Steve had Katie, he stayed in the waiting room and Jenna went back with me. By the time we started changing her clothes, Kylie knew something was going on, but I wasn't going to get the moment pass without documenting how cute she was in her hospital gown. She put on her best pout for the picture!
Within 15 minutes, they came to give her some "drink" to make her relaxed so she wouldn't freak out when they took her from me. She took it like a trooper (she usually takes meds great) and within a few minutes, the pout was gone...
Apparently it was some good stuff. I'd give my right arm to have whatever it was for nighttime! They took her back right at 7:00 and she never acted like she cared (she probably didn't). At 7:15, the doctor came out and said he was done. She did fine of course. There was a LOT of fluid in her ears which he suctioned out. He gave us post-op instructions and within another 10 minutes, they had called us back. They warned me that Kylie would be cranky coming out of the gas, and they were right.
Kylie is many times not a happy waker-upper so coming out of anesthesia (no matter how minor it is) was unpleasant. She just wasn't comfortable. She was thirsty and that played in our favor because she had to drink something before they'd release us. They let us go right about 8:00. We dropped Jenna off at school and started for home. I felt like we'd been up for hours and it was barely daylight!
The ride home was quite unpleasant since we had a long drive and she was just not happy. We fed her some snacks but when her favorite cookies were gone, she really wasn't having anything else. When we got home we immediately fed her breakfast which she scarfed down. We gave her a little Tylenol for any pain she might experience and put her down for a nap about 10am.
Steve and I took the opportunity to try and catch up on some rest as well. I didn't sleep well the night before for a variety of reasons so I took the chance when I had it. We woke up at 11:15 and Steve went up to the church to do some work. I laid in the bed a while thinking Kylie would be waking up any minute. Well...by noon, I got up myself and peeked in her room. This was what I saw....
BLESS! So I went downstairs and did some stuff. Steve brought lunch home and finally Kylie woke up about 1:00. She was a much happier camper then. She ate a great lunch and played for the rest of the afternoon. She went to bed pretty well but at 4am this morning woke up and Steve had to go spend about 30 minutes getting her settled down again. It was my morning to take Jenna to school so at 6am when I went to get her out of bed, I looked in and Kylie was standing up in her bed watching the door. So, our day today started early!
We go back in 3 weeks for a check up and a hearing eval. Other than that, we are already seeing a happier Kylie. Her balance seems better so we'll see if she starts walking soon. I'm glad this piece is over...
We arrived at the surgery center right at 6:00 and they took us back before I finished the paperwork. They took her vitals and we put her little gown on. Since Steve had Katie, he stayed in the waiting room and Jenna went back with me. By the time we started changing her clothes, Kylie knew something was going on, but I wasn't going to get the moment pass without documenting how cute she was in her hospital gown. She put on her best pout for the picture!
Within 15 minutes, they came to give her some "drink" to make her relaxed so she wouldn't freak out when they took her from me. She took it like a trooper (she usually takes meds great) and within a few minutes, the pout was gone...
Apparently it was some good stuff. I'd give my right arm to have whatever it was for nighttime! They took her back right at 7:00 and she never acted like she cared (she probably didn't). At 7:15, the doctor came out and said he was done. She did fine of course. There was a LOT of fluid in her ears which he suctioned out. He gave us post-op instructions and within another 10 minutes, they had called us back. They warned me that Kylie would be cranky coming out of the gas, and they were right.
Kylie is many times not a happy waker-upper so coming out of anesthesia (no matter how minor it is) was unpleasant. She just wasn't comfortable. She was thirsty and that played in our favor because she had to drink something before they'd release us. They let us go right about 8:00. We dropped Jenna off at school and started for home. I felt like we'd been up for hours and it was barely daylight!
The ride home was quite unpleasant since we had a long drive and she was just not happy. We fed her some snacks but when her favorite cookies were gone, she really wasn't having anything else. When we got home we immediately fed her breakfast which she scarfed down. We gave her a little Tylenol for any pain she might experience and put her down for a nap about 10am.
Steve and I took the opportunity to try and catch up on some rest as well. I didn't sleep well the night before for a variety of reasons so I took the chance when I had it. We woke up at 11:15 and Steve went up to the church to do some work. I laid in the bed a while thinking Kylie would be waking up any minute. Well...by noon, I got up myself and peeked in her room. This was what I saw....
BLESS! So I went downstairs and did some stuff. Steve brought lunch home and finally Kylie woke up about 1:00. She was a much happier camper then. She ate a great lunch and played for the rest of the afternoon. She went to bed pretty well but at 4am this morning woke up and Steve had to go spend about 30 minutes getting her settled down again. It was my morning to take Jenna to school so at 6am when I went to get her out of bed, I looked in and Kylie was standing up in her bed watching the door. So, our day today started early!
We go back in 3 weeks for a check up and a hearing eval. Other than that, we are already seeing a happier Kylie. Her balance seems better so we'll see if she starts walking soon. I'm glad this piece is over...
5.09.2012
It's Your Birthday!
This is a very special post for my work BFF (well, she's not at my work anymore, but she'll forever be my WBFF!), Katelyn!
Today is her birthday and I wanted to take time to wish her a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
KB-miss you like crazy cakes! I hope this birthday is one to remember! Happy birthday friend!
Alright blog readers...do me a huge favor...click here and leave Katelyn a birthday wish. She's loves birthdays and she is a new transplant to Denver, CO, far away from most of here family and friends. I know she would LOVE a shout out from my friends here.
Today is her birthday and I wanted to take time to wish her a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
KB-miss you like crazy cakes! I hope this birthday is one to remember! Happy birthday friend!
Alright blog readers...do me a huge favor...click here and leave Katelyn a birthday wish. She's loves birthdays and she is a new transplant to Denver, CO, far away from most of here family and friends. I know she would LOVE a shout out from my friends here.
5.08.2012
Ear Tubes
Tomorrow is the big day. We have to be at the surgery center at 6am, so y'all pray for us. We'll all be getting up early and Kylie is not all that happy when she doesn't get her sleep out. The procedure is scheduled for 7am and shouldn't take longer than 15 minutes. We aren't really worried, but we are hoping the tubes will help her balance and start walking (which will be helpful) and talking.
We'll keep you posted!
We'll keep you posted!
5.07.2012
Super Moon
This past weekend we got to witness the Super Moon. The moon was larger than ever. I know from Facebook that most everyone was watching and took their own pictures, but since our days here are starting to seem very much the same, I'm scraping the bottom of the bloggy barrel for material.
I know that I've had my Rebel for several years and should know more about taking photos, but I don't and so I just messed around with the settings.
I know that I've had my Rebel for several years and should know more about taking photos, but I don't and so I just messed around with the settings.
5.04.2012
Tennessee Patchwork
Tuesday night, Jenna participated in the 4th Grade production of a play called Tennessee Patchwork.
Jenna had two parts in the play. The first was an Elvis fan. You can barely see her here and she had no lines except screaming...but you know, at 10 years old, even the smallest part is a BIG deal!
This is her in her outfit before the show. Not sure why the picture is a little blurry. Guess I should have used my flash but at least you get the idea.
There were lots of cute Tennessee characters in the play...for example...
Jenna played a modern kid named Sissy. Sissy and her family are on a vacation to the Music City...
Jenna put together her own "modern" outfit and looked really cute. Here she is in action (literally!)
She did great as did ALL the kids and the teachers who put this all together. I'm so proud of my little fourth grader!!!
Jenna had two parts in the play. The first was an Elvis fan. You can barely see her here and she had no lines except screaming...but you know, at 10 years old, even the smallest part is a BIG deal!
This is her in her outfit before the show. Not sure why the picture is a little blurry. Guess I should have used my flash but at least you get the idea.
There were lots of cute Tennessee characters in the play...for example...
Davy Crockett |
Johnny Cash (who sang "I walked the line") |
Reba McEntire |
Minny Pearl |
Jenna put together her own "modern" outfit and looked really cute. Here she is in action (literally!)
She did great as did ALL the kids and the teachers who put this all together. I'm so proud of my little fourth grader!!!
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