adoption



Our Adoption Story

  
As many adoptive parents find, the main question they get as to why they are adopting is “why”. The short answer to "why", for us, is that we felt it was what God was leading us to do.

 I have always desired a larger family, but after the very quick and successful IVF to have Jenna, we were unable to produce a sibling. We went through several cycles and a lot of money. After that, we decided we were done trying. Until we found a friend whose husband had a very successful reversal surgery and she ended up getting pregnant. The cost of the surgeon they used was very reasonable, so we figured we might as well try. The surgery was painful for Steve and not successful in a myriad of ways.  I promised Steve when he went through that (God bless him) that I would be done if it wasn't successful. And since we weren’t, I kept my promise.

Almost.

I broached the subject of adoption with Steve several years ago. I even contacted an agency and got some information. But he was definitely not interested and gently reminded me that I had made him a promise. Despite that, I felt like God wasn’t finished with us yet. I felt like I would have another child, but I didn’t know when or how. And when you think of it, there are MANY ways to be a parent.

And after so long, I started to think maybe I’d been wrong about that. I kept asking why God would put that desire in my heart but not fulfill it. After several years passed, I finally came to the place where I could ask God to just help me be content with the size my family was. And amazingly, He was doing that. I started to see all the good things about being a parent to an only child instead of dwelling on the less-than-desirable things. That summer when Steve lost his job and the economy was so bad, I thought that must be the reason we never had a second child…because how could we afford another? Then that Spring, the Bible study group I’m part of, went through two books back to back that changed my life. The first was Crazy Love by Frances Chan. The next was the Radical series of sermons by David Platt.  Slowly, we begin to think about what we could do to help others when Steve was employed again, rather than what all we could do for ourselves (new computer, new car, bigger house etc.). At the same time, I watched as two couples in our church walked the journey of international adoption. Secretly I hoped that Steve was watching too, but I didn’t dare hope (oh, my faith was SO weak).

About a month later, on our way home from church, Steve just brought it up in a conversation we were having. I was stunned. I’m a talker, so I don’t normally find myself speechless, but I’ll tell you that day, I WAS.  In fact, I was so stunned that I didn’t mention it again for a couple days because I was afraid I might have misunderstood or that he really hadn’t meant it the way I thought. As the days passed, we opened up with each other and talked about it more. Miraculously, we were on the same page in nearly every aspect. We prayed about it with Jenna and with each other and there we were.

I did once ask him why the change of heart.  And his answer?  "I don't know".  I guess that's the way God works sometimes.  He changes you slowly so that you don't even know it's happening until you wake up and realize the way you used to be isn't the way you are anymore.

That is the simplified version. We didn’t know how we were going to pay for the adoption but God provided over and over again.  At times there were what felt like hundreds of questions that were still to be answered. But we believed with all our hearts that God had opened this door and answered this prayer for us.

The journey was not easy, but nothing worth having ever is.  And our Kylie is definitely worth having!

Below are some links regarding our adoption.  Some are informational and some are just links I love

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Adoption Links

Introducing
 (our adoption announcement)
Changing Agencies 
(the story of us changing to Lifeline)
Good things come in 3s 
(Kylie's referral)
PA
FAQs
I Just Don't Understand
(God provides)
God Shows Up
God Shows Up Part 2
Gotcha!
Coming Home
Kylie's Child Dedication
Finding-The Rest of the Story
(The story of Kylie's abandonment and finding)
Finding Part 3 
(The story of Kylie's abandonment and finding)
Finding Part 2 
(The story of Kylie's abandonment and finding)
Finding Part 1
(The story of Kylie's abandonment and finding)
Things I wish I'd known 
(helpful adoption tips)
Comments on Adoption
Special Needs
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Timeline
Summer 2010 - Decide to pursue adoption and research agencies
August 8, 2010 - Applied to America World's China Program (Waiting Child)
August 13, 2010 - Accepted into China Program!
August 25, 2010 - 1st homestudy visit! (both of us)
September 1, 2010 - 2nd homestudy visit (Sandra's individual)
September 8, 2010 - 3rd homestudy visit (Steve's individual)
September 17, 2010 - Final homestudy visit! (home visit)
November 18, 2010 - homestudy complete!!!!
November 19, 2010 - Application to USCIS overnighted
December 24, 2010 - Our USCIS appointment cards arrive!
January 18, 2011 - Fingerprint appointment at the USCIS.
February 14, 2011 - Receive RFE (request for evidence) from USCIS
February 28, 2011 - Received I-797 approval from USCIS!!!
March 1, 2011 - Dossier complete!
March 18, 2011 - DTC! Dossier to China!
March 31, 2011 - LOG IN DATE!!! (LID)
July 21, 2011 - New agency...Lifeline Adoption!
August 3, 2011 - LOG IN DATE!!! (LID)
August 3, 2011 - REFERRAL!!!! BABY GIRL IN JIANGSU!
August 5, 2011 - Letter of Intent (LOI)
August 8, 2011 - Pre-Approval (PA)
December 30, 2011 - LOA (after 144 LONG days!)
January 6, 2012 - I-800 Approval
January 11, 2012 - Rec'd at NVC
January 13, 2012 - Cabled!
January 17, 2012 - Article 5 Drop Off
February 7, 2012 - Article 5 Pick Up
February 21, 2012 - TRAVEL APPROVAL!!! (TA)
March 14, 2012 - Depart for China!
March 15, 2012 - Arrive in Beijing, China
March 18, 2012 - Depart Beijing for Nanjing, Jiangsu, China
March 19, 2012 - GOTCHA DAY!!!!
March 23, 2012 - Depart Jiangsu for Guangzhou
March 28, 2012 - Depart Guangzhou for Hong Kong
March 29, 2012 - Depart Hong Kong for HOME!!!!
March 29, 2012 - Home as a family of 4!!!

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Gotcha Day!








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